So this post is second in my beauty routine series. The first was about my perfume collection. This will be about pretty much what i put on my skin from the neck down. I will share my face struggles with y’all later on.
Inside Shower Routine
So… I love taking showers. I shower twice on most days. I am paranoid about having BO. I prefer using scented soaps over shower gels & oils. I’m always on the lookout for a scented moisturising soap. I do have sensitive skin, which makes the Protex and Dettol brands too harsh for my skin. The Dove soaps on the other hand don’t lather enough for my liking. I will pretty much try everything in between. I exfoliate my skin using scrubs on dry skin and when i’m in the shower, i use exfoliating gloves.
I lather my face cloth (wash cloth) up and scrub from the top down. I normally lather a second time after rinsing. Sometimes i will use a scented shower gel but i mostly use soap. I wash my lady parts with feminine wash or unscented baby soap using just my hands. My top tips for feeling clean:
I scrub my ears and back of ears thoroughly
I then scrub my neck all around thoroughly
I scrub underarms with exfoliating gloves to remove all traces of deodorant
I scrub my feet and focus in between my toes
I then scrub with a pumice stone to keep my soles baby soft.
After Shower Routine
I apply my body butter as soon as possible after getting out the shower. I mix my own body butters by mixing shea butter, coconut oil, aqueous cream and lightly scented lotion. I use a bowl and a mixer in the kitchen to get it nice and creamy. When it is all mixed, I add a quite a lot of whatever perfume i feel like adding at the time. Normally it will be something i’m trying to finish. I apply this body butter starting with my feet and working my way up to my arms and neck.
I then apply Dove or Nivea stick antiperspirant deodorant under my arms and then a spray antiperspirant deodorant on my neck and chest, and then under and between my boobs. If i am wearing a dress that day, i will also spray my thighs to help with sweat.
I then spritz my perfume of choice that day on my chest, neck, inside elbows and back of knees. I’m always washing my hands so spraying my wrists just ends up being a waste.
I don’t shave my arms or legs. My hairs are so light, they cant been seen without a microscope. I quit using shaving sticks and started using hair remover under my arms a few months ago. This switch reduced the itching i had when the hair started growing back and it also helped lighten my underarms. My bikini area is too sensitive for razors and no chemicals are going near my honey pot. I use electric bikini trimmers. I have a mini collection which includes a Veet Sensitive Touch , a Remington and a Philips. The only reason i have so many is because i am a product junkie. I do a dry shave before i get into the shower and i can go as smooth as i want with these. My secret to staying smooth and free of irritation is exfoliation. I scrub with a medium or hard toothbrush when i’m in the shower and this has dropped my ingrown hair count to zero.
What other tips do you guys have that you can share with me?
My fragrances ranked are all total awesomeness. I found it difficult to rank them. One thing they all have in common is that i would describe them as sweet and strong. I like to smell like a snack. I am not a fragrance connoisseur but i have links for those who are.
Christian Dior Hypnotic Poison – My all time favourite scent. I received my first bottle in high school as a gift 15 years ago. I cannot wear this everyday. It not that type of scent. It’s more of a make-them-remember-you-when-you-leave-the-room type of scent for special occasions. It is not currently in my stash as (I’m trying out a lighter version but my next bottle will be the original).
Christian Dior Hypnotic Poison Eau Sensuelle – I was about to by another bottle of my favourite and then the sales lady told me there was a limited edition in the range she thought i should try. So that is what i am doing. I like it a lot. But i only wear it on special occasions.
Christian Dior Poison Girl – As you can probably tell by now, I love Dior scents. I like this scent a lot and i try to wear it to work sometimes.
Givenchy Live Irresistable – newest on my list. I was smell tasting some perfumes and just had to have this one. I love it. I bought it yesterday and wore it to bed last night.
Giorgio Armani Si – New on my list because a friend of mine said it was seduction in a bottle. I like it a lot. It’s what i am currently wearing.
Nina Ricci Luna – My everyday scent for work. I also wear it to bed when i want to feel like a snack. A gift from a friend which i
Paco Rabanne Lady Million – My other everyday scent for work. I loved the Black XS but didn’t feel like buying the same perfume twice. I like it a lot and i have been told it suits me.
Victoria’s Secret Rush – The only body spray on this list. I absolutely love it. I wear it to bed sometimes. There is a possibility i could buy the perfume when i get the chance.
So a few fun facts about me:
I go for strong scents because love to smell myself throughout the day.
I switch them up because i don’t want to not smell them after some time.
I wear antiperspirant deodorant and perfume to bed (i’m very single and don’t share my bed with anyone)
I shower twice a day. My morning shower wakes me up and my evening shower relaxes me for bed.
I am paranoid about smelling of sweat and having BO. It’s such a deal breaker for me. I have the sense of smell of a hound, it’s both a blessing and a curse.
I am obsessed with hygiene routine videos on YouTube.
I hadn’t realised how much perfume i have until i sat down to make this list.
I enjoy smelling like a snack.
A complement on how good i smell will totally make my day.
So that time came again… I had my last period away from home. I went on a business trip this last week and it went well. I have a heavy period where i lose about 300 ml over 6-7 days. I lose almost half of that on my heaviest day alone.
I consider myself fortunate that i haven’t had any major problems with the fit of my cups. I have kept all my cups intact as i have a high cervix. I only get to feel it when i squat and bear down. I did however have a bad first couple of cycles with my purple small Lena. It was very uncomfortable and the ladies at Lena were nice enough to send me the sensitive version when it came out. After a few months, i gave the purple Lena another try and it has been getting better. I fell back into my junkie ways and bought a large pink Lena during a recent sale on Amazon. I got to try it this last cycle.
I carried my Super Jennie for the heavy day (medium firmness), my large pink Lena and my blue Ruby. My current cup stash:
3 x Lena (Pink L, Purple S & Sensitive S)
2 x Skinco (L)
2 x Anigan Eva ( L & S)
1 x Super Jennie (L)
1 x Ruby (M)
1 x Dutchess (S)
That’s a grand total of 10 cups, y’all. I need to stop there. I’m probably sorted until i hit menopause. Other stuff i’m going to take with me:
a mason jar and Milton tablets to sterilise my cups
panty liners (reusable)
individually wrapped femining wipes
I survived y’all. my heaviest day was the day I traveled. I used my Super Jennie that day and my large Lena the rest of the time. It felt comfortable enough that i didn’t need my Ruby which i carried as backup.
I just got home an hour ago after a date that quickly earned the “worst date” title. My previous worst date was a blind date an old high school friend (male) had set up with one of his workmates. My date turned out to be a dark, small guy with zero confidence who couldn’t hold a conversation with me. Apparently my friend thought we would be great together because we were “both short”. Needless to say, i haven’t paid attention to any relationship advice from this friend since then. That was almost 10 years ago.
And then this date today happened. I met this guy 5 years back when i was still working as a civil engineer on the processing plant of the mine i’m currently working at. I am now a mining engineer. I bumped into this guy a couple of days ago while grocery shopping. He asked if he could see me but i told him i was busy. Then yesterday, before 7 am, while i was still in bed, i got a call form a strange number. I let it ring and went back to sleep. A few hours later, he called again. I picked up and he asked to meet me. I figured a chat over a meal wouldn’t hurt. So we agreed to meet this afternoon at 4 pm.
Arrived on time. He was a few minutes late. He was just like remember from way back. hadn’t changed much. He got straight to the point. He waned to spend “foleva” [forever – for my non-Zambian readers] with me. He knew i was single because i do not wear a ring. During our conversation over a late lunch/early dinner, he made the following points:
he mentioned that i looked like an alcoholic who had started drinking early in the day – i was enjoying a glass of Baileys which i had craved but hadn’t tasted in about 3 years because i couldn’t find it around.
he mentioned that he was a Jehovah’s Witness and asked if was aware of the implications should i decide to marry him (i’m sure y’all know what i am talking about). He stressed the fact that he is a jealous boyfriend.
he has my LinkedIn profile picture saved as his screensaver on his desktop. Creepy or what?
he wanted to be introduced to my boss to make sure there was nothing between us, and to also let him know that i was becoming a married woman so that he starts respecting me as such.
he wants a minimum of 4 children before i turn 40. I’m 31 now so he did the math and said i needed to get pregnant soon and have 4 months after birth before having my next child if he was to have his 4 kids.
he discussed my hair – i have had locs for almost 2 years now. He said my hairstyle was acceptable at the moment because i was in mining, but that i should learn to change it because “a woman needs to change her hairstyle every week”…
he said i needed to get over my career, that my time for playing was up and that i needed to settle down as a woman. That “what goes up must eventually come down”. He could not have stressed this point any harder, i swear.
While all this was going on, he was refilling his glasses of Amarula from a bottle in his car. I stayed as polite as i could but i eventually decided i had had enough. I asked to leave.
Now i come from a family where my dad is super proud of me. He talks about his only daughter every chance he gets. Every time i meet a friend or colleague of his, I’m reminded of this fact. My dad told me he didn’t want me to depend on anyone for anything. The attitude that this “date” of mine has towards women is not something i have had to deal with.
I honestly feel discouraged… If men like this are the options i have, I’ll pass on the marriage thing. It’s hard enough to open up to somebody about my relationship fears, but to add this kind of emotional abuse to the equation is not a part of the deal i am willing to take. For now, i’ll remain happily single until i meet that special someone who will trust me, accept my freedom of choice and allow me to work until i CHOOSE to raise our children full time and return to work when the time is right.
My Skinco (left) and Ruby (right) cups have faded. 😔
They are next to my Anigan Eva which hasn’t faded much. Maybe because I haven’t used it as often. The top picture was taken a few days ago and the bottom picture was taken in December.
I use Milton sterilising solution at the start and end of using the cups. I think this is the cause… I normaly soak my cups for for 15-30 minutes. I guess since I’ve had the Ruby for a while and used it often…
Anybody else experienced colour fading with your cups? How long did it take? What do you think caused it?
Should I quit using the Milton or use a more dilute solution?
I wore three cups this month, temporarily suspending my two cup rule.
I used my small Lena sensitive and my large Skinco and Super Jennie cups.
This period was easy. It was about the same flow as last month, nothing too heavy like in March. I had no cramps.
I also used one disposable panty liner on the third day. I’m having trouble getting through my disposable panty liner stash. I do not use them on a daily basis. I don’t really use them with my cups either because I don’t leak. I had a use for them as back up when I used tampons.
Any suggestions on what I can do with my disposable panty liners?
For this month, I got to try my new large, blue Super Jennie (SJ) cup. Many thanks to Red Herring for this video that helped me choose my high capacity cup.
It arrived on the third day of my period and just in time, too. I had one hell of a week at work and the capacity of this cup saved my ass. My first impression of the cup was that it was firm. For some reason, I expected a much softer cup. This cup was firmer than most of my other cups, including my medium Ruby cup which i wore on my lighter days. But i will say it is more of a medium firmness cup than a soft one.
Towards the end of day 5, i switched back to my Ruby cup because i didn’t need the capacity of the SJ. This got me thinking… I didn’t need to switch, because a menstrual cup does not need to to be filled up to be considered properly used. I felt i needed a smaller cup because i wasn’t filling up the SJ. This mindset is one that has stuck from years of using tampons and is something i am still trying to unlearn. With a menstrual cup, it doesn’t matter whether the cup is filled or not, and it can be emptied at any time, too. With tampons, i timed my bathroom visits to change my tampon at the optimum time (moist enough to be pulled out without pain but not yet leaking). With cups, i go to the bathroom whenever i need to because i only needed to empty my cup once while at work and can do it on any of my bathroom visits.
Some points for me to note:
I stuck with my 2 cups per cycle rule again.
I didn’t need any pain killers for my cramps.
I used my medium Ruby on my lighter flow days (1-3 & 5-7) and the SJ for the heavy flow days (3-5).
This last period was not as heavy as the one before. It didn’t disrupt my busy Easter weekend activities or my busy work week. I also managed to workout at the gym.
I must realise that i can empty my cup at any time, whether it is full or not.
I should probably start reviewing my cups, one blog post at a time.
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